~*~

23rd november 2010

dear eva,

i wanted to share my article post, i wrote yesterday,
with you that is getting a good amount of online public feedback and
personal emails to me in the past 24 hours!

W.O.W.~5 stages of {letting go and} forgiving (http://wp.me/pSiBm-p3)

i thought of you as i was writing this article because you also gave me a new and different perspective about the journey of forgiveness i was on in 2009.

during our beyond-the-scenes interviews (part one) for your website, you talked about the poignant journey of forgiveness when someone hurts us and to turn it around and ask them how have they been hurt by us.

it got me to think about
not only how i was hurt by someone
but how i may have hurt him.

during my search for peace and forgiveness
with my readings,
marriage/divorce counseling sessions,
practicing meditations,
even a spiritual person’s recommendation (a friend from portugal),
your words of wisdom in this interview, and
several incredible dreams of him dying
(spiritually, mentally, physically) all within one week ~
after a year of silence on the matter,
i actually wrote him an email
several weeks later and did just that!

anyway, i didn’t mention you specifically in my article post yesterday,
because i was sourcing so many things – but i would like to post on addendum to it
on my e•magazine blogsite (and all my social media)
with a link to our video and excerpts of our interview
as a “bonus p.o.v.” of forgiveness that helped me.

and again, i wanted to thank you for sharing
your personal insight with your fans, followers… and me.

xoxo
sarah

~*~

and here is that profound and heartfelt interview i did with eva in 2009:

plus the TEXT (via YouTube transcription program):

Beyond The Scenes: Up Close & Personal with CSI Miami’s Eva La Rue Part 1

starting at 01:05.46

«sarah»
.what is your favorite journey – literally or spiritually?

«eva»
.i think my most poignant journey this year
has been one of forgiveness.

.i’ve read a lot about it
and i thought i understood, but
it didn’t really resonate until
it became a functioning thing
in some relationships around me.

.it’s an amazing healing experience and
it’s not so much about somebody forgiving you
or you going and saying
“oh, i forgive them” and “i forgive what they did to me,”
it’s about going in and actually saying to the other person”
“how have i hurt you?”

.even if you feel like you’re the one who’s been hurt,
it’s letting go of your hurt for the moment and saying
(or maybe letting go forever and saying):
“how have i harmed you?”
because that makes the person, i’ve noticed,
completely fall away.

.all the pretense all the anger all the resentment, it falls away.
because we all really want somebody to say:
“how have i hurt you?” “what was it i did?” and
“i’m sorry from the bottom of my heart.”

.it’s been the most transformational thing in my life.
it’s just been happening in the last few months
and it has been transformational.

.(just basically) when you think that you’re
mad at somebody else for doing something to you,
and we hold onto it like:
“I’m never going to ask them what i did to hurt them
because, forget them, they hurt me more than
i could have ever possibly have hurt them.”

.but when you go in and you say
“did i do something to hurt you?
because i’m just feeling so angry at you.
but let’s not talk about that;
what have i done to hurt you?”

.the whole thing changes
and that, i think, is true forgiveness.

«sarah» that is, and it’s a great journey too

«eva» it’s an amazing journey, yeah.

~*~

for more of this thought-provoking interview series with Eva in 2009 ~

Beyond The Scenes:
Up Close & Personal with
CSI Miami’s Eva La Rue
(part 2, part 3)

please visit her website: http://evalarue.com/

~*~

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