A revealing, honest, in-depth exposé
by Sarah Nean Bruce
PART 3 of 3
STAGE V – DURATION:
Modern Women look at the Big Picture for enduring 21st Century Relationships.
They often hope they can, at minimum, become friends with the 21st Century Gentleman.
When Modern Women meet a man and their first intuition is this is someone they can become friends with, that is good. They want to feel a connection.
Their goals are to be in healthy, trusting, unconditional, affectionate long-term relationships. But they are realistic. At the onset, Modern Women are open to long term or short term relationships. At minimum, they hope for enduring friendships.
They want to have fun. They are cautiously optimistic. They want to be themselves with men. Although they can’t predict the future or read minds, they can often sense ambivalence or uncertainty in the 21st Century Gentleman, but confident Modern Women trust that time – with patience and effort – reveals to all.
Modern Women live their lives with very little fear. They feel happy most of the time. They understand that people are different and at distinctive places in their lives – emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially. They get that variety makes life exciting and unpredictable. And they realize adversity builds their character and strength, but they don’t seek it.
They don’t make up their mind on whether they are a good fit until they see each other for two to three months. After 100 days, Modern Women usually know if it can be a long-term relationship, or casual friends (or perhaps discover that they can be friends with benefits for awhile, because they are mature 21st Century adults). They are willing to invest their limited time to explore possibilities if someone seems worthwhile to them.
They know perceptions are unique, and they don’t consider differences an incompatibility. As modern women, they come from a place of acceptance, tolerance, patience and diversity. This philosophy gives them a broader perspective and makes their lives richer and certainly more interesting.
They believe Modern Women and 21st Century Gentlemen are interested in people with varying ideas, thoughts, religious perspectives and backgrounds. They understand that being open to different people expands their minds, makes their lives richer and offers them the potential to grow spiritually and intellectually.
They recognize there are many people who want to be given a puzzle with an answer and pieces that fit like they were made for each other. The 21st Century Gentleman and the Modern Woman believe things don’t always fit perfectly, and sometimes it is the rough edges that make life more fascinating.
Modern Women like mates who are fun, charming, alluring, and intelligent. They want their moments together to be pleasing, and thought provoking. They want to discover and grow in the time they spend in the dating phase and beyond.
Nearly all modern women seek a 21st Century Gentleman with common values, emotional health, maturity, kindness, strength, financial responsibility, pleasant physical appearance, good fitness, and decent communication skills. In their pursuit of happiness and search for an alchemic transformation of the heart, these are essential elements for a potentially incredible 21st Century Relationship. Otherwise, Modern Women are just fine on their own, because they are truly happy with themselves.
Ordinary life does not interest me. I seek only the high moments.
I am in accord with the surrealists, searching for the marvelous.
STAGE VI – CONTEMPLATION:
When Modern Women reach the point of making a commitment to the 21st Century Gentleman, they sincerely ponder and assess mutual goals for an enduring relationship.
Here is a compilation of Soul Mate/Life Goals Wish Lists from Modern Women.
~with self: maintain a healthy mind ~ body ~ soul ~ character.
~with family: continue to keep in close contact with parents, children, siblings & their children; be supportive, honest & loving.
~with soulmate: maintain a close, kind, reciprocal, intimate, passionate, loving relationship and partnership with a strong, powerful, brave, centered, real, 21st Century Gentleman.
~work/biz: be and do our best each day at what we are. be creative & artistic, as well as, financially secure for now & for later, establishing & maintaining long-term resources, all while keeping a balanced, happy, artistic life. focus on our goals without being distracted by things not directly related to our goals & happiness.
~home: be responsible and realistic with what we have and build a stronger future. reduce, reuse & recycle what we have.
~physical: daily exercise, sleep well, eat right; take vitamins, breathe fresh air & drink lots of water.
~spiritual: open to new ideas and universe, learn, expand our horizons abroad, be more intuitive and forgiving.
~emotional: stable, grateful, balanced, positive, in control of our emotions and release at the right time.
~perpetual: live with integrity, grace, style, loyalty, love; be impeccable with our word, and around people who reciprocate honesty & trust & affection & integrity & loyalty & intimacy.
The fiery moments of a passionate experience
are moments of wholeness and totality.
**DISCLAIMER: the preceding commentary is a composite of relationship experiences, expectations and hopes from many modern women. They trust that any men they’ve dated/relinquished, friended/unfriended, liked/disliked, loved/loathed and married/divorced won’t take it personally.**
Part 1 of 3:
STAGE I – INCEPTION and STAGE II – IMPRESSION
Part 2 of 3:
STAGE III – COMMUNICATION and STAGE IV – CONNECTION
Part 3 of 3:
STAGE V – DURATION and STAGE VI – CONTEMPLATION
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